Communication is much like riding a bicycle, typing and even cooking, you can learn it if you are willing to put some time and effort into it. How you communicate with your spouse is going to dictate how your marriage is going to go. If you do not share anything with your spouse or find that the two of you are yelling at each other more and more, then there is a problem in how you communicate with one another. In many cases, the couple is going to find themselves in a courtroom where divorces are being issued.
With divorce mediation, the couple is able to speak to each other in the presence of the mediator who will help them reach an agreement that suits the both of them. You will not be bullied or pressured into something that does not feel comfortable in mediation. You are free to voice your concerns and wishes and the mediator works to help you achieve your wishes.
You should know that separation and divorce are big stress fillers in life. In these times, the members of your family are going to feel broken and torn. They will feel conflicted as to who they side with and are going to be worried about the final outcome of the divorce. When you enter into a marriage, you not only enter into it but so do your family and friends.
When you share friends with your spouse, when divorce happens, those same people who rooted for you to last are going to be torn as to who they feel comfortable being friends with in the end. They will feel bad that the marriage did not last and will feel conflicted as to how they remain friends with both of you. When you first show up following the divorce, things are going to be awkward and they would not know what to say. If you show them that the mediation is working to help the divorce be more amicable, they would not feel so bad.
Family of the parties getting divorced will try to remain as neutral as possible when there are children involved. This should be the case no matter and especially if you were married for years before the divorce occurred. When there are children involved, the mediator is going to work with the two parties involved to make sure that a good pattern of visitation and custody is in place for the children.
The mediator is also going to work to help to setup an amount of child support that is reasonable for the parties. It will look at how much each person makes and what seems like a fair amount of money to both people. When you go into a family courtroom to have support issued, the judge would not look at this as closely as the mediator will, so it’s best to have the mediator work their magic instead. If you are not sure as to why you should seek a divorce mediator, speak to your friends who have had a divorce and see what they thought of using a judge or using a mediator. They will help you to decide which route is best for you and your soon to be ex-spouse.
